So I got the call.
The call from each of my boys teachers.
They both began by saying they "were concerned for ____(child's name)."
Then there was a conversation A and a conversation B that followed.
Conversation A:
"He seemed a little off at school. He needed more hugs and was even a little sensative when he participated in group activities. Please give him a hug and let him know I hope he feels better when he comes back tomorrow."
Conversation B:
"I realize that you have much going on with your youngest son; however, I do want you to know that we are seeing a marked change in ____(child's name) school behavior. He talks a great deal when he is not supposed to and generally seems to think that the rules are not for him. He had a great deal of trouble following the directions in ART today and a note also went home about that.
Please speak to him so that we can get these behavior issues under control."
Please speak to him so that we can get these behavior issues under control."
Same family.
Same house.
Same situation.
It is amazing how each of us deal with stress, concern, and change.
Any suggestions?
My brother has had endless problems with acting up in school.His has to do with his speech delay.
ReplyDeleteCommunication with the teacher is key. Hear both sides from teacher and your son. The teacher always sees it different. The teacher needs to move your son aways from trouble makers in the class. Tell your son to be sure to communicate with his teacher. Tell the teacher what you are feeling, why you are talking why you feel the way you do. These have helped with my brother.
Monica, you are a great parent and it just goes to show that we were all born with a personality all our own. I am always amazed at how different my girls are from each other. Also, remember that different teachers/environments are going to make each of them feel different. Is it possible that "child A" is in a more relaxed or supportive classroom where he would feel safe showing his emotions?
ReplyDeleteBean... you had to know that Behavior problems were bound to happen with your husband as a Father right?
ReplyDeleteI love you guys and miss you more than you know. Hope you're enjoying the east side of the country, but hope it doesn't last.
Sounds like child 'A' has a nicer teacher :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Melinda! :)
ReplyDeleteWhen we first found out that Logan had lost the remainder of his hearing we were also dealing with my youngest still in the NICU going through 4 surgeries in 6 months. My oldest reacted more like child "A" he became very sensitive, emotional and shy. My husband and I each took a Saturday and did a "date" with him. We went to lunch where he wanted and did a fun activity of his choice. We did a lot of talking and gave him a chance to express his feelings about everything that was going on. We also told him how proud we were of him for being such a great big brother and that Heavenly Father had made him Logan and Chase's big brother because He knew that he was the best choice.. We told him that we needed him to be patient while we figure all of the other "stuff" out and that if he ever needed to talk, he had to promise that he would come to either my husband or I.
Dealing with your other kiddos during all of this is tough, good luck. "This too, will pass" :)